A majority of the problems that occur in a romantic relationship can be attributed to the fact that one or both partners feels unappreciated. For example, jealousy is a common problem in people's relationships. Typically, jealousy comes from insecurity and insecurity is significantly reduced when you feel appreciated by your partner. Boredom with the relationship, nagging and a general sense of discontent are other common relationship problems that find their roots in a sense of not being appreciated. After you realize this, it's easy to see that the best way to improve your relationship is to do things that let your partner know that he or she is appreciated.
Here are some ideas for making your significant other feel appreciated:
- Say thank you. It turns out that it's the little things that count. Mom and Dad probably taught you that you're supposed to say thanks when someone does something nice for you but you may have picked up their bad habits of failing to say it to one another. Don't take anything that your partner does for you for granted. Say thanks when a meal gets made or a chore gets done and your partner will start to feel like doing those things gets appreciated.
- Create an appreciation scrapbook. Take the time to sit down and put together a list of all of the things that you appreciate about your partner. Go through magazines and find images that go along with each item. Use these images to create pages for a scrapbook that depicts the things that you appreciate. Your partner will appreciate this gift for a long time.
- Offer a massage. Don't do it because you want one in return. Don't wait until your partner asks. Just offer one to show that you really enjoy the act of touching the person that you're in a relationship with.
- Try to notice the small things. The fact that he shaved two days in a row when he usually doesn't, the small haircut that she got on the way home from the store or the new seasoning that was used on a meal are all really small things but noticing them goes a long way towards making your partner feel like you're actually paying attention and appreciating what you've got.
- Write a love note. You may not feel comfortable telling your partner what you appreciate about him or her but you could be okay with writing it down. A love letter can be treasured forever and will always remind your partner that you really do appreciate having him or her in your life.
- Do things that your partner likes. When figuring out what you want to do over the weekend, consider trying things that you don't love but you know your partner really enjoys. It won't kill you to sit through the game or go to a chick flick and it will make your partner feel appreciated.
We often wish that our partner would do things to show us that we are appreciated. Try to think in the reverse instead; make an effort to show your partner that you're appreciative of the relationship. This will improve things drastically and probably produce the results that you are looking for.